Saturday, November 10, 2018

Deploying with Baptist Disaster Relief

Thomas and I had not taken a mission trip this year and decided to deploy the last seven days with Alabama Baptist Disaster Relief. We are both trained in mud out & recovery and administration, plus Thomas has chainsaw training. We had gone through Katrina some years ago and wanted to serve to help people in the way they had helped us in Mobile back then. Although some people deploy with a set team, we deployed as individuals and joined with others on the admin team in Dothan. This center had feeding and clean up units deployed earlier, but now just had the chainsaw crews being sent out each day with support for the volunteers provided by small feeding and laundry teams. Over 900 chainsaw and tarp requests were processed by this admin team to help people get their lives back to normal.

 Baptist Disaster Relief was begun in Texas by a Baptist Men group many years ago. Through the years, it has grown throughout the Southern Baptist Convention with many states having their own training and credentials for Disaster Relief. Teams are also formed from associations among people who know each other and team up to serve wherever there is a disaster. North American Mission Board (namb.net) has come on board in the last decade to provide a nation-wide exposure to the work of the army of volunteers working in Disaster Relief. Teams vary from communication, laundry & shower, feeding, chainsaw, mud-out, heavy equipment, administration, child-care, chaplains, flood & fire recovery, and tarp placement.

 Volunteers always wear their yellow shirts every day of deployment. Each volunteer is assigned to a location where they serve under “white hats (center leaders),” “blue hats (team leaders),” or “green hats” (association leaders). A disaster situation requires an organized system or network to provide needed services and goods that people need. This is no small task, particularly when there is no power or normal communication. There is usually a short delay where teams are “staged” to prepare to move in and set up. The needed teams are then deployed to areas where their skill and equipment can be used by those in need.

Our team occupied one half of the Recreation/Fitness Center desk at Ridgecrest Baptist Church in Dothan, Alabama. We also used the "gathering area" in the fitness center. Teams were housed in Sunday School rooms of the main building. Several age-levels met in large groups on Sundays so the volunteers did not have to move out of their rooms. The volunteers took showers in the locker rooms of the Recreation/Fitness Center and ate in the church fellowship hall. The housing area would hold almost 100 volunteers at full capacity--that would be cot to cot in rooms with little extra space. This makes deployment affordable for the volunteers and puts them close to their tasks so there is no transportation issue.

In our admin area, each trained worker, brings their own computer and the Alabama State Board of Missions has a laptop and two printers that were used to process jobs, organize teams, keep track or resources, and find people. Feeding teams in Dothan were larger when they were feeding the general public in the early days following Hurricane Michael. We were there later in the deployment where that had ceased and a 4-member feeding team--also trained and deployed, provided meals for the volunteers only. It was great to not worry about meals as we worked 12-14 hour days. Hot, cooked breakfasts and dinners were provided and sack lunches were picked up after breakfast so lunch could be eaten at the job site. In the initial disaster, the entire surrounding area was impacted, but as time went on, fewer emergency needs were being requested.

The church generously provided their space for us to work and assisted us whenever possible. Many individuals provided gift cards and these were used to purchase tarps and other supplies needed. Sometimes the cards were given to homeowners who needed them to purchase items. Some resources were given from people in areas who have benefitted from the ministry in previous disasters. The admin team was responsible for organization of housing, meals, credentials, volunteers sign-ins, liability releases that had to be signed by homeowners, where each team was and what job they were working, answering the phone, and handling walk-ins. Because we were there during the end of the job, we did all parts of the process from intake, answering the phone, writing up jobs, making copies, and scanning final paperwork. During the busy early days, someone would only do one part of the job the entire day.

People who called were hurting and had problems beyond fallen trees and we worked hard to show compassion and patience while trying to help. Trained chaplains were a part of every team. Their job was to talk to the homeowner or anyone else they encountered, be a listening ear, and share the Gospel. They would also go through the neighborhood when a job was being done to see if anyone else in the area needed help. People met Jesus because of this type of ministry. Even as an admin, I had opportunities to talk with people about what motivated me to work for nothing for a week to help people I had never met. The Gospel was spoken, but it was also indelibly communicated through the actions of many of helped others, many who had no means to help themselves.

If you are a Baptist, think about being involved as a volunteer in Disaster Relief. You do have to be trained ahead of time and be willing to deploy on short notice on your own dime, but the rewards are both immediately and eternal. If you cannot volunteer, you can give through the state Baptist convention of your choice.

Saturday, October 20, 2018

I Am Pro Life

By Donna J. Wright


Are pro-life voters one issue voters? No, they are not. It appears that pro-abortion or pro-choice folks see them that way. The words “pro-life” have been placed onto one issue but it does not mean there aren’t other life-promoting issues left unsupported. 

My church and denomination (Southern Baptist Convention--and we have supported this in and through our church with regular tithes of 10 % with additional giving and volunteer hours for our lifetimes) spends thousands of dollars each year providing foster care, family services, family counseling & housing, senior adult/widow assistance, and college scholarships to people who need them. This is a pro-life stance.

My church spends a portion of its income in addition to a paid and volunteer workforce to pick up food twice a week that is donated from a local grocery store. They haul, load, unload, sort, package, and give away food to needy families to supplement their diet. They can also get clothes as needed. Church members support this with additional donated food to make meals for families in need. This is a pro-life stance.

One of my denomination’s seminaries offers educational benefits to prisoners in Angola, LA. Many churches have ministries to those behind bars as well as supporting families who struggle when a loved one is incarcerated. This is a pro-life stance.

My church womens’ ministry and the Bible study group I lead have answered many calls for help from women in need. I have watched them gather diapers for new moms, school clothes and supplies; hair bows for foster kids, items and money for women seeking a new start in life after rehab or jail, scholarships for children to attend camp and church programs, and much more. This helps goes to both people we know and to strangers. They are people who just need a little extra help or encouragement This is a pro-life stance.

I am a teetotaler, believing that alcohol does not help me to live a happier life. I stand against drunkenness and drunk driving because its’ consequences kill people. I have never voted to make it easier or less expensive to purchase alcohol or illegal drugs. I support making life-saving drugs available at the least feasible cost. This is a pro-life stance.

I support humanitarian and faith-based efforts to provide clean water and nutritious food to the hungry worldwide. I support agricultural efforts to help people feed their families with extra support for widows, orphans, and children. I am trained and participate in Baptist Disaster Relief, ready to serve to help people who are the victims of catastrophe. This is a pro-life stance.

My church provides ministries to people of all ages, from birth to death. No life is ignored. Anytime there is not a group for any age, I work hard to provide them with opportunities for fellowship, Bible study, and ministry. We use our building each weekday for our largest ministry: a child development center that is non-profit and seeks to provide low-cost and safe care for children through the fifth grade. This is a pro-life stance.

Our (my husband and I) retirement funds are invested so as to, as much as possible, not support businesses that advocate alcohol, tobacco, abortion, pornography, human trafficking, gambling, among other things considered immoral by most followers of Christ. Most people don’t even think to ask these questions when it comes to investment. Most people choose investments based only on profit; these investment overseers work hard to make their money agree with what they believe is right and honors God. This is a pro-life stance.

My church gives a portion of all gifts to our denomination and almost a dozen additional ministries who make an impact locally and around the world. Some money pays for the needs of crisis pregnancy center clients. Some pays for food and medicine that is given away on mission trips. Some helps those who are trying to get out of homelessness and start over. Some provides program funds for ministry to disadvantaged children and those living in poverty. These ministries are mostly staffed by volunteers from my church and from other like-minded people in and out of other churches. Missionaries supported by my denomination whose primary goal is sharing the gospel also work to feed hungry people, build wells for clean water, and provide needed medical care around the world. This is a pro-life stance.

I am against slavery, human trafficking, and abuse of any human being. I support candidates who work to arrest and stop those who participate in this atrocity. I also support laws that thwart the abuse of people. I am pro-refugee, having spent many years helping them get settled here in the USA and learn English. This is a pro-life stance.

Once a baby’s life is saved instead of being aborted, the people advocating on behalf of that helpless boy or girl do not stop being pro-life. They help people live their lives. They, like me, may be Christians, many are nurses, doctors, social workers, foster care parents, donors and volunteers in organizations and ministries to living, walking, human beings. This is a pro-life stance.

The opposition to abortion is only the beginning. Abortion is abhorrent. It is murder of the worst order. Because this act ends a life, it gets the most attention. But it is not the end.

Some people see me as a one-issue voter. I want to know how a candidate I am considering voting for stands on that one issue. Why? Their stand on that issue tells me how they will handle the rest of the issues I am concerned about. 

This is a pro-life stance. I am pro life.

[I took this photo at a daily feeding ministry operated by a local church in South Africa while we served there.]

Friday, October 19, 2018

Gosnell: The Trial of America’s Biggest Serial Killer: A Movie Review

This is a movie I did not want to see. So why should you spend $10 and see this movie?

This is a true story. If you know nothing of Dr. Kermit Gosnell, you can research him yourself. Some charges against him for murder were for babies who were to be aborted except for one woman: Karnamaya Mongar who died in the clinic. This is a man who should have been prosecuted decades earlier and almost got away with these atrocities.

The movie shows the narrative of a pro-choice district attorney who was told she would never win the case, yet tried it anyway. There was arrogance on the part of the defense who never felt they could lose a case where a fetus was the victim. 

If you believe there is a case for legal abortion, even if you choose to not watch this movie, you, at the very least, need to look up what abortion is and how it is performed in the best of clinics. Don’t be for it if you don’t know what it involves. The movie presented what happened. If you want to know that—you should watch it. 

Gosnell did a lot wrong beyond performing abortions beyond the legal limit of 24 weeks, but there was very little difference in outcome. His clinic was filthy and had untrained staff and routinely did not wait the mandated 24 hours required by law. 

Stark and cold, the defense put a well-dressed, professional abortion doctor on the stand to tell the jury what abortion was and how a legal one was performed. She meticulously described the process. The defense for Gosnell intended this witness to show how little difference there was between what was done legally and what Gosnell did illegally. Under further questioning, this same witness admitted that if a baby happens to be born alive, it is kept warm until it dies on its own. This should, in most court cases, stand in contrast to the other side of the argument: a baby delivered either dead due to lack of intervention, or snipped in the neck after birth as Gosnell practiced, but it did not contrast very much. This was for me the most indelible part of the movie and probably why it gets so little publicity. One reviewer calls this scene “purposefully misleading” but I found it to be just the opposite. Abortion may be a choice for some mothers, but it is a horrific procedure for an unborn baby to endure to die. 

So how did Gosnell come to find himself be declared guilty? His staff. There was plenty of evidence to show he was guilty without them. But the few that came forward were undeniably compelling. One had snapped a photo of Baby A laying in a surgical tray: a fully formed and developed little boy. When asked why she took a photo she said, “He looked like he could be someone’s little brother.” The photo is not shown in the movie, it does not contain any graphic or salacious photos other than the tiny feet of babies preserved in jars discovered in the clinic.

Gosnell was shown to be a sick man. His behavior both inside and outside the clinic was appalling and callous. Although he could have been motivated by the money, his behavior toward the women who came for abortions was uncaring and apathetic—it made me angry and very sad. Gosnell showed more care for his turtles that he kept in a tank in the office than he did for his patients.  

Parents, don’t worry about what your teens will see if they go to this movie. There is nothing gory aside from blood-spattered tables being taken from the clinic. They don’t even show the famous photo of baby A—you have to go online to see that. 

This movie exists because of crowd funding. It was not bankrolled by a movie company or someone rich who wanted to get their message out. 2.1 million was raised in less than two weeks—people giving their money because this message needs to be available to the public to see.

This movie was completed in 2015 and is just now in theatres due to opposition in promotion. The movie is fair and factual. It could have been a banner-waving movie condemning abortion. It is not. It you are pro-choice or pro-life, you should see it and make up your own mind. 

I recommend you eat before you go. It is not a movie where popcorn can be enjoyed so skip it and watch intently. It moves fast and does not get bogged down. Plan to stay and watch the credits where actual photos of evidence is shown. The photos look exactly like the movie. This movie took great pains to be factual. It takes much of its dialogue from court transcripts.  Don’t ever be afraid of the truth. If you are pro-choice, this movie won’t make you pro-life. It is more of a factual movie rather than one made to manipulate your thought. But either way, you need to see it. You need to know what you are talking about when discussing abortion with your children, your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife. You need to know what abortion is if you are going to decide to be for or against it. 

As a side note, in doing research for this review, I had trouble finding good clear information on abortion from pro-choice websites. The clearest information was from pro-life sites. This made me wonder how many people really know what abortion is and what it does.

If you like horror movies, you will like Gosnell for all the wrong reasons. I didn’t like what I saw, but I’m glad I saw it. I highly recommend it. It is a movie I will never forget.


If you think some people only care about life in the womb and not about people who are already born, read my next blog.


Friday, September 7, 2018

Hike Your Own Hike


This past year, I have been following several hikers as they hiked the Appalachian Trail. I have followed several people that I personally knew in the past, but this year I have followed some total strangers through their online journals as they have journeyed from Springer Mountain, Georgia to Mt. Katahdin, Maine (over 2,000 miles). This is a distance I cannot imagine walking myself, so I am quite content watching from my screen. This is not a flat path, it goes over and around mountains, boulders, creeks, and lakes. It goes through wilderness inhabited by bears, elk, mice, and all the rest of the creatures.

One happenstance that was surprising to me was how often hikers get off the trail by accident. One couple I was following did this several times. You can imagine the frustration of adding unnecessary miles to an already long journey. They, and many others, purchased a Guthook app for their phones that will show them their location in proximity to the Appalachian Trail. White blazes mark the trail on trees and rocks, but it is not a constant visual guide, so they can be missed, particularly when the weather is bad and so many hikers have to hike looking down so they don’t trip and fall on tree roots and other obstacles. Guthook is an interesting name. As many words do, it makes me think of a literal hook piercing into a person’s guts and pulling them in the right direction. Gory. I know.

There are references to walking a path in the Bible. It is a long journey through life and it can be true that even for those of us who meet and know Jesus from a young age, we can go off the path and waste miles. We can say we don’t need any blazes on the trees, map, or even an app. But life gets hard, downright frightening at times. When we get lost, we can look up and let God take control and put our guts and all the rest of us--soul, mind, and spirit, back on the right path. David wrote in Psalms: “You will show me the path of life. In Your presence is fullness of joy; At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” (16:11).

Whether you know Jesus now or not, at any point you can call out to Him to save you and put you on the right path. He will do it. 

If I was hiking, I would get the Guthooks before I started so I could stay on the path and not risk taking a single unnecessary step. No shame in submitting myself to that. It beats trying to see occasional blazes. I am not embarrassed to submit my life to God either. “For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ, for it is the power of God to salvation for everyone who believers, for the Jew first and also for the Greek” (Rom. 1:16).

Good hike, everyone.

Monday, August 6, 2018

Redeemed

 
This hymn, written in 1882 by the prolific hymn writer Fanny J. Crosby (1820-1915), brings a picture to my mind. It is of Dare Smith, who was my pastor’s wife in the 60’s. My mother and she were friends and I stood beside her at least once when we sang that song. I have sung that song thousands of times, but I see and hear her when I do. I think the gusto she sang it with that day, indelibly marked it in my memory.

This morning, I was praying in faith for someone to receive Christ. This is a specific someone that I have prayed for, according to my prayer journals, since 1981--37 years. I don’t live near him, but I try each time I visit to witness to him and pray for him in person. He allows me to pray but refuses to ask Christ into His life. He still wants to “hope for the best” for what happens when he dies. We have talked very bluntly about it.

I trust God that even in my stumbling, full of errors witnessing efforts that he will respond to the Holy Spirit’s prompting and be redeemed. Redeemed in its dictionary definition means that someone was released from captivity by payment or ransom. Jesus offers redemption from sin and punishment for it. No one is good enough or perfect enough to escape sin (Rom. 3:23). It is our nature, we are born into it and need a savior. Jesus is the only Savior that can do it (John 14:6). But we cannot save someone else—our children, our friends, anyone. They have to decide by placing their trust in him (John 3:16).

I sang this song several times in my house this morning out loud, trusting God to save this loved person for whom so many prayers have been prayed. Who are you praying for and sharing with?

Redeemed, how I love to proclaim it!
Redeemed by the blood of the Lamb;
Redeemed through His infinite mercy,
His child and forever I am.

Redeemed, redeemed,
Redeemed by the blood of the Lamb;
Redeemed, redeemed,
His child and forever I am.

Redeemed, and so happy in Jesus,
No language my rapture can tell;
I know that the light of His presence
With me doth continually dwell.

I think of my blessèd Redeemer,
I think of Him all the day long:
I sing, for I cannot be silent;
His love is the theme of my song.

I know I shall see in His beauty
The King in whose law I delight;
Who lovingly guardeth my footsteps,
And giveth me songs in the night.

I know there’s a crown that is waiting,
In yonder bright mansion for me,
And soon, with the spirits made perfect,
At home with the Lord I shall be.

Tuesday, July 3, 2018

Come to the Altar



We don’t use the word “altar” in regular, everyday conversation. We use a related word “alter” more frequently. Often you will see the word “altar” misspelled as “alter” probably due to this. Altars in the Old Testament were places where animals and sometimes people were sacrificed both to known and unknown gods and to the true Creator God of the universe. Blood was shed. It had to be messy and smelly. Our 2018 selves are not familiar with slaughterhouses so just the thought of it is difficult to imagine. 

On a trip to Czech Republic a few years ago, we took a day trip to Terazin, a Nazi concentration camp. Just yesterday, I was reading that there are young people who attend public school in the US who are unaware of the holocaust of what happened here and in other camps in Europe. Of the estimated 155,000 Jews who lived in or passed through Terazin, 80% died (https://www.jewishvirtuallibrary.org/history-and-overview-of-terezin). Terazin was at one time set up as a fake Jewish city and was put on display for the Red Cross for the Nazis to try to show they were treating Jews well. While not primarily a death camp, it still housed crematoriums. I remember walking in and thinking “Even if no one told me what that contraption was, I could figure out it was designed to burn a body.” 

In comparison of the altar and the crematorium, both are places where people come to die. Some come willingly. Some do not. Some do not come to the altar at all. For some, that altar is only a place to get married, serve communion, dedicate a baby, or join the church. It is not seen as a place of death. Have you been to the altar to die to yourself, to recognize your own mortality and repent and turn to Christ who is the only path to life and hope?

When I encourage people to get into a discipleship group to help them grow as a believer, I find getting a positive response difficult. Some may respond positively at first but on looking at the time commitment, the task, and the sacrifice—they back away. It is hard, but to grow into a mature of believer, growth is needed and it takes the sacrifice of dying to self to live for Christ. In areas of the world where Christians are persecuted, even to the point of death, even new believers make great sacrifice to follow Jesus. To follow Jesus in the US, it doesn’t mean much sacrifice or persecution, but it still means to die to self to be born again in Christ (John 3:3-7).

Dying to self to live for Christ is both a one-time thing and a lifelong process. Have you been to the altar? Do you revisit the altar and repent when you start to walk like the world instead of like Christ? Come to the altar; the Father’s arms are open wide.



Tuesday, May 15, 2018

Leadership Challenges of Women Serving as Church Staff in the Local Church



            Women serving on church staff in complementarian churches face unique challenges due to the polity, structure, and culture of the churches they serve. Men who lead and serve with these women can lead better by learning of these challenges. Some can be solved; some cannot. Recognition of the challenges can better prepare both men and women as they work together in churches.

            The challenges discovered through qualitative research for my dissertation involved twelve interviews with women serving in Southern Baptist churches for at least five years where no women served as pastor or elder. The job titles varied, with most working with children. It is recognized that in qualitative research, the results cannot be generalized. 

I have served on church staff in Southern Baptist Churches, as a ministry wife, and as a helper in over ten church starts. My husband had read my dissertation, minus the research, as I went through the process. Near the end, I asked if he would read the research chapters. When he finished, his response was, “nearly all of these things have happened to you, too.” So, although no research-based generalizations can be made, the challenges uncovered will be familiar to women who have worked in conservative churches.

            The challenges discovered were put into three categories: cultural, theological, and personal. The cultural challenges are what women face in the world and in the specific culture found in SBC churches. These were: role ambiguity, lower compensation, lack of female co-workers, role incongruity, environment, and supervision issues. Women interviewed experienced that although there was agreement on a complementarian theological viewpoint, how that is practiced in each church changes from church to church. It also changes inside the church from person to person and situation to situation. Because of this, confusion and frustration resulted for the women. Some examples of this were women staff members expected to do secretarial tasks when male staff members were not, decision-making meetings impacting the ministries they led where they were not invited to provide input, or difficulties created from being the only woman on the ministry staff. These are categorized as cultural because most of the women realized they were not done intentionally to hurt or belittle them, they just happened because they were female in their estimation. The culture of the local church sometimes showed itself less than hospitable when women moved beyond the secretarial roles, even when those roles were in areas where there was no theological disagreement.

            The second area of categorization of challenges was theological. Theologies on what women should be allowed to do and how it plays out in the local church vary widely. Ordination is one visible dividing line that at face value played no part in the ability to do the job assigned. It did factor into reasons given for lack of opportunity for advancement or as an explanation for why they were not a part of particular groups or meetings. Probably the most mentioned theological issue was that it could be difficult to find a job. Most churches/pastors who hired a female staff member usually hired from within or someone with whom the senior pastor was already acquainted. 

            The last area of challenge category was for those of an individual, personal nature. These areas were somewhat unique to the woman or the situation. Single women had different issues than married ones. Single or widowed women had the additional pressure of being compensated enough to support themselves. (Interestingly, half the women did not know what their co-workers earned in comparison to their own salary.) Those with young children or aging parents usually had more responsibility for their care than their male counterparts. Work/family balance played itself out in different ways in each situation. All of them faced some type of discouragement that had its source in their femaleness in the particular environment of the conservative SBC church. 

            Challenges exist, yet in spite of them, I talked with no bitter or disillusioned women. They were positive, upbeat, and still ready to work in the local church. That is not to say the former don’t exist, just that none were interviewed or did not stay long enough in a church staff position to qualify. Women interviewed were selected through random invites to pastors and denominational leaders to recommend women serving on church staff.

            Let me know if you want to hear more on this topic.

Saturday, April 14, 2018

Reading Challenge for 2018

Here it is. It is a little late in coming but there is still plenty of time to meet the challenge. You can count a book already read if it was this calendar year. It is difficult to know at what level to set a challenging list, so I have included three categories that reflect a year of the Olympics: Bronze, Silver and Gold

Let me know if you have taken or have completed the challenge. Audio books count. You have to listen to them, they cannot just be playing in your presence.

Bronze:
A Christian Biography
A Book About Prayer
A Book of Fiction Just for Fun
A Book About Christian Living
A Book More Than 100 Years Old
A Book Published This Year
One of the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, or John)
Psalms & Proverbs

Silver:
(All of the above plus these below)
A Book About or by a Missionary
A Book to Improve Your Health
A Classic Novel
A Book About Discipleship
The New Testament

Gold:
(All of the above plus these below)
A Book About A Current Event/Issue
A Book Written for Children
A Book More than 400 Pages
A Book About Revival
The Entire Bible

Saturday, March 10, 2018

Where Are the Manly Men?



With the myriad allegations, reports, and evidence of sexual harassment and abuse of women, I wonder: Weren’t there men who knew what was happening, yet did not protect women from harm?

In this modern age, some do not like to admit that a part of man’s role in this world is to protect women. I don’t mind admitting it. I trust the men in my life: my husband, my father, my brother, my male co-workers and supervisors and other leaders to protect me. Does this make me a helpless female like the ones in the old movies who faint, stumble on their high heels, or need constant help to save themselves from certain death? No, it does not. I still look out for myself, use my street smarts to guide me at times.

But I am a believer in the different roles God gave to men and women. Although I don’t consider myself a froufrou woman, I do consider my femininity at its strongest when held in contrast to a manly man.

I overheard a young dad explaining to his son “you are stronger than your sister, use your muscles to protect her, not to overpower her.” God gives strength to men to be used with the gift of self-control. There is a time to throw a punch or use appearance of strength merely to intimidate.

When even one man uses his strength, power, or control to harass or abuse, it is wrong. It is negative masculinity. Real masculinity is the man who has all the strength and power and uses it appropriately and also protects others from those who abuse.

When faced with a woman making an allegation, it appears in many of these situations that they were assumed to be lying, redirected, or ignored. Why? Why would an ongoing progression of choices among different accusers about the same person experience the same result?

(1)   Sexual abuse is an uncomfortable subject. To move even one step toward ascertaining truth, uncomfortable and embarrassing conversations have to occur.
(2)   Allegations, even if proven untrue, can ruin reputations and careers. This keeps those who are told from acting.
(3)   Protection from a potentially untrue allegation is held in higher regard than protection of a victim.

This third point is perhaps the reason why such revelations are not believed until they are undeniable. Then, victims come out of the shadows and the real length and breadth of the damage done is seen.

In research, one must mitigate objections or weaknesses. Let’s look at this situation and find a way to mitigate these situations.
(1)   Listen to victims; no matter how difficult; at least listen
(2)   Listen to those accused. Give the accused an opportunity to be heard too.
(3)   Protect both and get to the truth.

In many of these situations, victims, even after expressing problems, are sent right back into the same situation where the abuse occurred with no protection. Men, don’t let this happen. Protect the weak, vulnerable, and abused, male or female. They need you. Those wrongfully accused will likely fully cooperate in making it possible to protect. It could be a “red flag” when the accused wants to continue behavior that gives them unsupervised access to a victim.


We need manly men; men who will stand up to protect both and search out the truth.

Friday, January 26, 2018

What does avoiding flu have to do with discipleship?




The flu season has hit us hard. There are so many friends suffering with its impact. No one wants to get the flu. No one wants to spread the flu.

I had the flu last March. I had a 12-hour plane trip, two days previous and had attended church the night before symptoms began. I had hugged several people that night. Now people who know me know that I am not a natural hugger. Hugging used to be rarer than it is now. People hug all over the place at my church. Even on the home design television shows, it seems that people hug upon first meeting, but I digress. . . .

The day before I came down with the flu, I had no idea. I had a slightly lesser appetite that day so when I had a headache right before bed I thought I needed to eat something. I munched a few almonds before I went to bed. Around 1 am I woke up with chills, quickly followed by a bigger headache and body aches. Fever set in around 3 and I knew something was wrong. By 4:30 am, I was googling flu symptoms and had diagnosed myself.

When my husband woke up, I told him I wasn’t going to work, and I was sure I had the flu due to the rapid onset of all the symptoms. He told me I needed to go get tested to be sure since we had travelled to several countries over the past 10 days and it could be something else. I could not drive so he took me over and it was flu. He got TamiFlu and we stopped sharing anything to keep him from getting it. The hardest was keeping the fridge doors and sink handles clean—have to share those.

Not only was I sick, I was mortified that I could have infected other people including my sweet friend Shirley who had sat beside me at church the night before. I quickly texted her what had happened and that she should watch for symptoms. Fortunately, she didn’t get sick and no one else got sick that I know of.  I was out of work all week.

So, what does this have to do with discipleship? I picked up a flyer from the Centers for Disease Control on how to avoid spreading the flu (or any communicable disease). Stuck right in there is the sentence: “Train others on how to do your job so they can cover for you.” Discipleship is often looked at as learning scripture and obeying the Bible. Those are needed and necessary. But as disciple-makers, especially those of us in church work, we should be training others to do our jobs.

I used to think that having people exclaim “we missed you so much” upon my return to church/work was a compliment and they meant it as one. But, part of me doing a good job was to train them so they could do it. As I have tried to put this principle into practice, being gone is not as big of a problem. I used to have a long list to leave of what to do while I was out. Now that list is fairly short. Other people have information, keys, knowledge, items . . . whatever they need to operate in my absence or in my presence.

This is very freeing. But doesn’t that mean I’m not indispensable? Yes, it does and I’m okay with that. Being indispensable is an illusion anyway—no one is--everyone can be replaced. If you hold onto a task or position too tightly, you can squeeze the life right out of it. And it can squeeze the life out of you. We are human, we get sick, we have family members who need care, we go on vacation. It is okay. It is good.

So, beyond the not hugging, shaking hands, or covering my cough, I’m training others. Want to help in discipleship? Train others to do your job at church. God did not put us on this earth to hoard positions, titles, or tasks. He put us on this earth to serve and share Him through ministry to others. If you don’t train someone else, it can’t happen. If you do, it can happen for generations.